So the final episode of Channel 4s program Married at First Sight focussed on the Honeymoon , 5 weeks of living together and decision of whether to stay together or divorce of the two couples James and Emma and Kate and Jason.
They admitted they spent the honeymoon night in the same bed.
They honeymooned in Ireland and had a honeymoon that centered around tehir shared interest of fitness.
Kate admitted they felt instantly comfortable with each other Jason felt the same and thought is was a good, nice and normal sign.
Jason admitted there was an attraction and he could develop deeper feelings for her, Kate thought they were both up for it but hinted at caution to see what would happen. (had something twigged a doubt in her)
They admitted they spent the honeymoon night together but they kept what actually happened private.
They honeymooned in Iceland. They seemed to get along very well and interacted well together.
Anna Machin the expert discussed attachment theory and said James was classified as preoccupied and Emma as dissmissive avoidant. Dissmissive avoidants find it diffcult to be close to people and struggle with intimacy and keep people at arms lengths. Preoccupied people are anxious overall not necessarily about the relationship.
Emma admitted on the honeymoon she found elements of James very attractive but did not know if there was a connection and thought perhaps at that stage she should know. James thought the relationship was either a slow burner and that they would ever fall into close friendship or become solid.
Both couples for the time of living together moved into a flat supplied by Channel 4.
Unfortunately Kate and Jasons flat was not available whe hey came back so Kate decided to stay initially at Jasons flat share,
During the living together;
A week after getting married Jason admitted he found her attarctive but he struggled with physical side but would not say more. Its hard to understand what he alluded to ie he wanted a physical relationship and she didnt or he did not find her physically attractive.
Kate admitted she did not know how she felt as he could come across as quite cold.
The relationship looked to be in trouble.
A week after their honeymoon their flat was ready and they started packing to move in, kate seemed down she said she was excited and wanted to get to know him more, but was uncertain how they both feel. Jason said out of the whole experience he was feeling scared and vunderable and was uncertain, he worried there was not much of an attraction. Kate had sort of sensed it, he was not being affectionate where as she is and she did not know how to take that. Jason said he would move in with an open mind an see how it would go.
At this point reading between the lines it was clear he was only doing for the program and it was not what he wanted, obviously we dont know what he finds attractive in a girl but kate certainly did not come across as someone that was unattractive and it seems strange he was not wanting to at least try. In life i guess you go often with your gut instinct and have learnt from your past what is right for you.
Jason moved in first and unpacked some of his clothes in the spare bedroom, when Kate arrived he tried to explain to her about getting up early and not disturbing her when getting ready for work. Kate appeared very closed standing there talking to him with arms folded, it was clear when she spoke to camera she knew things were not right between them and was obviously feeling rejected. It would be nice to know what actually happened between them from the first night back after honeymoon and the day they moved in together I get the feeling they did not really interact with each other and presume Jason stopped that.
Kate and Jasons first house meal appeared an awkward affair they seemed to have a dont mind , perhaps, discussion on whether they should open a bottle of champagne, they did not appear to be preparing food together or interacting very well. Jason a few hours later asked for filming to cease.
Obviously filming did start at some point, it was mentioned that Kate and Jason were not spending any time together and were confiding in video diaries. Jason admits Kate is beautiful and when asked by Kate did he find her attractive he said yes but said he could not say anything else and would man up.
Kate was preparing food and said they had agreed to talk things through but he did not turn up. She wondered why he chose to do the experiment. It then appears they had both contacted the expert Jo Coker, though one wonders if this was setup by the production company and they both agreed to meet her to discuss things together. Unfortunately Jason did not turn up. Kate in talking with Jo thinks the camera had affected him and he had not tought this through when agreeing to take part, however when the cameras are not around there is still nothing. Jo Coker was surprised this had happened so quickly and thought all was not lost.
Jason explained on camera why he did not go the meeting, it had been a stressful week, a late friday night and he was not in a good place and it would not have worked with him feeling like that.
The camera then focussed on Kate who was across town hoping to meet up, however she was shocked to recieve a text from her friend as she had found Jasons profile on tindr and he had been active within the last few minutes so was at their flat on the site rather than meeting her, Kate showed her hand minus wedding ring and she said she was done.
After rwo weeks of marriage Kate and Jason were over and did not meet again they moved back to their respective accommodation. Kate spoke on camera and suggested she tried to get him through out their honeymoon and he was only affectionate as if following the book at the right times but nothing else. Jason did not feel the relationship and was why there was nothing there and the cameras would not have been an issue if there had been something there. Json felt the experience was worth doing.
James and Emma had an evening out socialising with her friends. James seemed capable of mixing with them. Emma was unsure where their relationship was at was it friends or maybe more at that stage she thought she was in no mans land.
James and Emma first house meal, they seemed to work well together and seemed to be getting om the worked on preparing it together and had a good rapport.
Emma was starting to feel more comfortable around James she obviously is not easily tactile where he is, their first challenge they admitted to was his snoring.
Emma and James threw themselves into their relationship, and held a house party, Emma certainly had come out of her shell and was quite fruity and confident laguage wise towards him when telling him what to do. She admitted to a friend that the physical thing was still awkward. He confided in his friend that the last week had been difficult as she is not that affectionate.
During the time of living together there appeared nothing to suggest they had fallen out.
Emma admitted that she was learning things about James every day. James thought she felt comfortable with him in some respects but not in a full intimate relationship.
Decision Time
Only Emma and James remained together at the decision meeting;
Emma admitted she would not have gone for James if she met him i a pub.
James and Emma discussed their five weeks at the meeting with Jo Coker and Rev Nick Devenish
James probably it seems adapted more to Emma and Emma said they had a good 5 weeks.
They decided to remain together for the time being. Two months later they are still together and appear to be getting on. It appears they had moved back into their respective houses and were in constant contact when they were not together. So I guess they were going through the normal dating process and putting to one side they were married.
James admitted that it had only been 3 months since they met and their relationship was in the infancy. Emma admitted she really liked James and watch this space.
After Thought
It would seem that Channel 4 are going to repeat the program as they were advertising for people to take part in the next series. I wonder if this would be for a series 3, esp if it took a year for the first series to come together or whether they would cut down the expert research process. Unfortunately like all these types of reality programs I wonder about the next set of applicants and what they are genuinely after in quite a number of reality programs subsequent programs seem to have participants that are more into celebrity/being egotistic than the show.
As for Kate and Jason, one wonders how easy it was for them to get divorced ; a statement I read mentioned they could get the marriage anulled if they had not consumated the relationship. There was no indication on the show what would happen next for them.
As for Jason, he suddenly become one of the most hated men on twitter, the sympathy was all for Kate. At least it seems he had not carried on for the sake of carrying on and allowed Kate to become emotionally attached to a much greater level. One wonders about his thinking when signing up to tindr, during the show he says that it was after realising their relationship was not going to work but he had not had the courage it would seem to tell her and the production crew it was over unless the program was edited wrongly to make him look bad. No doubt at some point if he had been using dating sites or been dating during the time between agreeing to get married and the end of shooting when it was decided it was not working the stories will come out in the press and in reality the story would have come out very quickly after the first episode. Hopefully he will move on with his life quietly and outside the public eye though it will be quite difficult as the press and certain girls will be trying to catch him out nd lets hope he does not end up appearing on celebrity big brother. His name and name of the company he works for has been splashed across the newspapers and internet so one hopes that he has not hindered his own career and his company thinking he has shown them in a bad light.
I look foward to see what happens with Emma and James no doubt the press will keep us informed or a followup episode will tell us, They have already appeared on this morning where philip schofield apparently questioned them on their wedding night to no answers.
